Picky vs. Choosey Eaters – The Adult Set

My husband forwarded a great article to me today about picky eaters.  I thought it was going to be another writing about kids and how they won’t eat anything but peanut butter and jelly and cereal.  However this was different.  It was pickyness in adults, specifically when dining out.  I love this article.  This is so true.  When I’m discussing food with parents who tell me their kids are picky, we always get into a larger discussion about what the parents eat, or don’t eat. 

Somehow it’s o.k. for mom or dad not to eat vegetables, but not for kids.  I’ve had parents tell me “I’m not an adventurous eater.  But I’d like my kids to be more open”.  We all know kids model parents’ behavior (as well as peers, friends, family etc).  So you need to start there.  If I was a child listening to some of the orders adults give in restaurants (no wheat or cheese at a pizza restaurant?), I too would be puzzled.  Or diners who want vegan or raw at a restaurant that doesn’t advertise or have menu items as such.    A steakhouse simply can not (and should not) accommodate someone who is eating “raw”, other than a salad.  And there are some great places that make vegan desserts, but not the usual pastry chef at every restaurant.   

What most people call “picky”, I call “choosey”.  If you look up the word picky it says “fussy”.  Fussy then means “easily upset” and “close attention to details”.  Choosey however means “particular” and “selective”.  I think this is more appropriate and positive when thinking of food, no matter what age the diner.  We want to be selective and pay attention to detail when making choices.  Parents are able to choose what to give their children.  And parents are able to choose what to buy to cook and eat.  I think children have less of a choice, as they’re usually made for them, so maybe that’s why they’re labeled “picky”, as they get upset about the parent’s choices.  It’s interesting that the adults in this article are labeled picky.  I think they are unreasonable.  Yes, the customer is right, but not if in the wrong type of restaurant.  It’s kind of like asking a fast food joint to cook your burger medium rare – it’s not on the menu and not an option.

Here’s my summation on this article and the expectations of eating away from home… 

Diners are able to choose their restaurants – so if you’re picky, choose a different one or choose to cook it yourself at home.